Five Traits in a Mate That Are Not Deal Breakers - MSN Relationships - article

The bottom line on the "my type" is, and always will be, "does he have money."

I have been divorced for 17 years and would really like to date again but I have had no luck with personnals and I refuse to go to a bar/nightclub.  The issues for me (or what could be issues) I am 5"11 and everyone I have met in the last 2 years has been 5"8 or less I of course as most women do expect the man to be taller!! and at the same time how does this make the average man feel to be shorter than woman he is dating.  Age to me is another issue I am 46 (dad is 66) when I have attempted to use  the personnals everyone that contacts me is in the age range of my father and that just gives me the creeps.  Outside of those 2 issues I am not really a picky woman and even though I  am far from wealthy I don't care if he has money or not.  All I really want is the companionship.  So  what am I doing wrong?

I always used to go for the bad boys. Now that I'm in my 30's I realize that won't get me anywhere, so I avoid them now. The only thing I really am looking for is someone who is easy for me to talk to. I tend to be shy so the connection is very important.

Danny Devito is under 5 foot and Robert Reich is under 4. Would you want to get a booster chair for Robert like they do when he appears on political talk shows? At those heights, their should be some compatiblilty. Why someone 5' tall needs a 6 footer is beyond me.

In college there was a very cute cheerleader who was maybe 5 feet tall. Did I mention very cute? She got drunk one night and showed up at my Fraternity party and started accusing me of being prejudice against short girls. Did I mention she was very very cute? Never thinking I had any shot at this very cute cheerleader I quickly asked her to dance (our Frat parties were basically discoteque parties). At 6'6" it became evident that fast dancing was Ok but slow dancing was a bit of a problem. After a minute or two I picked her up and a second later I opened my mouth slightly and her beautiful, very cute, cheerleader hair wisked my gum right out of my mouth (and into her hair). I spent the next 15 minutes getting some ice to freeze the gum while one of her sorority sisters carefully cut the gum out (all of my frat brothers were rolling on the floor). Tried to contact her days later and her sisters said SHE was too embarassed. At least she was drunk, I think my face was red for two weeks. Thats the long and short of it. Sei la vie.

The bottom line is that you can't change who you are attracted to. I could desperately try and try to be attracted to a man who is short but at the end of the day, I am just not attracted to short men. I am also not attracted to old men either and no matter how hard I may try to make myself be attracted to them, it won't work. This author's advice stinks.

Yes, there are some things you should be open to giving a chance - he's not your type, his online profile, his profession. These are all things that may change - personalities change, careers change, people grow and become more wise. But height, age, intelligence, etc are things that will never change and making yourself be attracted to something that won't change is just leading the relationship to disaster and is very unfair to the other person.